It’s always a good idea to go into any new relationship with your eyes open.
Here are obvious 15 signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you, that he has absolutely no intentions of committing himself to you, and what you should do about it.
After this article, you should be able to identify whether he plans on being exclusive with you at some point, or if it’s much better to just walk away for good.
Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You
1. He does the bare minimum
One of the things that make a good relationship is real effort. He tries his best to be there for you whenever you need him, even if it means he has to postpone an important business meeting.
He doesn’t consider being with you as an obligation. Instead, he sees it as a privilege that makes his day better and lighter.
On the other hand, your man will not want to commit if he puts in the bare minimum for being there for you.
He won’t put effort into making your relationship work if he doesn’t love you like how everyone deserves to be loved. If this is the case, why should you be the only one putting in all of the efforts?
Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t appreciate what they have or someone who will never change no matter how hard you try.
2. He doesn’t bother communicating with you
The most obvious sign that he’s not interested in a relationship is simple – he doesn’t bother to communicate with you.
If he never texts back, has long delays in his responses, and answers your calls infrequently, he simply isn’t interested in maintaining a relationship with you.
It may feel silly to dwell on the fact that someone isn’t replying to your email, but this is actually an important data point about a potential partner.
If someone wants to be in a relationship with you and cares about what’s going on in your life, they will make sure they maintain communication with you.
They don’t need to be blowing up your phone with text messages, but they will respond in a timely fashion and make plans when they know your schedule opens up.
3. He prioritizes other things
Does he prioritize everything and everyone else in his life before you? Does he put his own wants and needs first and over yours?
If so, it could be a sign that he’s not ready for the seriousness of a relationship.
If your partner doesn’t want to spend time with you or is always bailing on plans for something or someone else, it’s showing that they aren’t willing to make sacrifices to see you or do what you want to do.
If he isn’t willing to make sacrifices for you, why would you want him as your boyfriend? You deserve a man who will drop whatever he has going on in order to be there for you when you need him.
4. He gives vague details on what he wants
When you are looking for a man that wants to be in a relationship with you, he will make it clear what he wants and what he is looking for.
When he doesn’t want a relationship, you will get vague information about his life and plans. He won’t tell you how he feels about you or if he loves you.
He won’t tell you why he is upset or what it would take to fix the problem and make him happy again.
He won’t give any type of commitment to the relationship either. All of his actions speak louder than words when it comes to this.
He will never say yes when asked if he sees himself marrying you or giving up his single lifestyle for your relationship.
5. He avoids defining the relationship
Not only is he avoiding labels, but he’s also avoiding serious conversations in general. It could be because he’s not down for a relationship with you.
If he avoids seeing you for more than a week at a time or if he frequently cancels on you last minute, it may mean that he just doesn’t want to commit to anything serious.
If you’ve been together for a while, there are other ways that you can tell that he doesn’t want to commit. Does it feel like there is always an excuse every time the subject of your future comes up?
Maybe it’s about how busy he is or maybe it’s about some other obligation that he may have at the moment.
If this sounds like something he says often, then the possibility of them wanting something serious with you is slim.
6. He talks to other girls
If he’s still in touch with other girls and keeping his options open, then you can bet that he doesn’t want a serious relationship.
It’s normal to have friends but if you feel like he’s talking to other girls more than he should or doesn’t make you feel like his priority, then it might be time to reconsider your relationship with him.
If someone is serious about you and wants to commit himself fully to you, then they will be willing to give up their other options and focus on only being with the one they love.
Relationships take work and commitment, so if this person is unwilling to dedicate himself fully to you, it might be time for you to find someone who will.
7. He doesn’t make plans with you
One of the most obvious signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you is if he never plans to meet up with you.
If he never texts or calls when he says he will and always waits for you to reach out first, that’s not a good sign.
If you’re always making plans and suggesting ideas for what to do on dates, he’s not invested in meeting up with you or figuring out ways to spend time together.
This is even worse when it comes down to important events like holidays.
If he doesn’t even ask whether you’d like to celebrate together or talk about it, this demonstrates how little interest he has in spending time with you.
8. He only contacts you late at night
Don’t be flattered if you’re receiving texts or late-night phone calls from him.
If he’s calling and texting you to see what you’re doing, or if you want to hang out and watch a movie, be wary of those feelings that are bubbling up in your stomach.
They might be telling you that he really likes spending time with you, but the truth is he’s probably only interested in your body.
If this is his pattern of behavior every time he wants to see you, it could mean that he’s not interested in making any type of commitment with you – just trying to get into your pants.
9. He only gives physical intimacy
Physical intimacy is an important part of any healthy relationship. But if all he seems interested in is the physical act of intimacy, then that’s a sure sign that he doesn’t see you as someone he’d like to have a deeper connection with.
It’s important to remind yourself that there are other aspects to a long-term partnership than just having sex. Those things include mental and emotional intimacy.
While you may be having a lot of fun, there are likely deeper reasons why you want a relationship with this person (and why you should want one).
If those aren’t being met at all – or if they’re barely being scratched – you’ll probably feel dissatisfied with your current situation before long.
10. He doesn’t bother getting to know you better
In a relationship, you want to know each other’s likes and dislikes, hobbies, work-life, family, and friends.
But if he’s not interested in learning about your life or doesn’t ask questions about your interests or hobbies, it means he’s not really interested in you as a person.
Does he ask how your day was? Or is he only interested in talking about himself? If so, it’s very likely that he doesn’t care about knowing you better.
11. He doesn’t spend time with you
The most obvious reason a person would spend time with their partner is that they want to be around that person, but if your guy isn’t making plans with you and is always too busy to hang out, chances are the feeling isn’t mutual.
If he’s unwilling to make time for you now, he may never be. The best way to know where you stand is to ask.
If he gets defensive or tries to change the subject when you broach the topic of his lack of interest in being around you, then it may be time for him to go.
On the other hand, just because he does spend time with you doesn’t necessarily mean that things are going well.
It could mean that he genuinely wants some company and that whatever relationship dynamic between the two of you makes it easy for him to get what he wants without having any real feelings towards you.
The bottom line is that if hanging out with you feels like an effort rather than something fun and natural, then there’s probably a reason why.
12. The relationship is stagnant
One of the most important things in any relationship is progressing. If you’re not progressing with your partner and they aren’t moving forward on their own either, it’s time to face facts.
If you find yourself feeling stagnant or stuck in the relationship and like there’s no solution to make it better, it might be because he doesn’t want to commit himself to you any further than he has been up until now.
If neither of you feels like making an effort or if one of you does see the value of investing more into the relationship but the other isn’t interested in doing so, then it’s pretty clear that this guy does not see his future with you.
13. He’s afraid of commitment
This one is self-explanatory. If the guy you’re dating doesn’t want to put a label on anything, it’s because he doesn’t see a future with you.
If he says that he doesn’t have time for love or relationships, then believe him when he tells you that.
He isn’t ready for a relationship with someone as amazing as you, and he will run away from it forever if you don’t let him go first.
14. He doesn’t introduce you to friends or family
If you’ve been seeing someone long enough that you could introduce them to your friends and family, but they haven’t introduced you to theirs, they may not be looking for a relationship.
This is probably a sign that he isn’t interested in making things official with you, even if he isn’t planning on breaking up or hooking up with other people.
Maybe he’s just not ready to have you meet his friends or family, or maybe he’s just not looking for a committed relationship right now.
When a guy is serious about you, trust me when I say that he’ll anticipate introducing you to his inner circle. He’ll want to you boast you off so that they can see why you’re so special in his life!
15. The relationship is surface-level
If you’re only talking about superficial things, like what your weekend plans are or the latest movies that have come out, then it’s clear he doesn’t care enough to get to know you on a deeper level.
This isn’t a relationship but just the surface-level attraction between two people who don’t really know each other.
If a guy really wants to commit to you, there should be a natural substance and depth between both of you.
He’ll want to dive into your mind and converse about everything with you, not just talk about the weather.
You can’t make someone change their mind about you. If he isn’t making an effort, then he probably won’t ever make one for you – no matter how much you think or hope he will change his mind!
If a man isn’t willing to put in the time and effort, then it doesn’t matter what the reason is – nothing will get him to commit, no matter how hard you try.
So, don’t wait for him to change his mind and don’t try to force it.
Don’t waste your time with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.